How About Soccer? Trapshooting? Lacrosse? Bowling?

Three years ago a presentation was made to the North Fayette Board to add bowling as a competitive sport.  A few folks have informally asked if we would consider trapshooting.  Soccer is a growing sport in the state, with northeast Iowa basically that last part of the state to see growth.  Lacrosse . . . well not in Iowa, but it actually is the fastest growing girl’s sport in the country and the second fastest growing boy’s sport.  Now that we are a bigger school, can we add athletic opportunities for our students?  A few folks have asked that question, and being a parent of a child who really enjoys one of the sports mentioned above having played soccer since he was in 1^st grade, I too have a vested interest in some expansion.  However, before we jump in and start adding, there are some things to consider.

Obviously cost is a factor.  There is no getting around it with school budgets being what they are.  The financial obligation goes pretty deep and for some sports, costs can add up quickly.  Some of those costs come from the activity fund and others from the general fund, including coach’s salaries and transportation.  Depending on the number of events and trips, just those two costs will easily exceed $10,000 annually.  Throw in uniforms, equipment, possible maintenance, insurance, and other costs and it can become a significant amount of money to start up and sustain a program.  One sport that has not been mentioned, but is one that is growing at the collegiate level and at high school on the west coast, is girls wrestling.  From a cost perspective, that would likely be on the lower side because most of the high priced items needed for that sport are already in place.

Another consideration is whether NFV can be competitive if the sport were to become part of our program.  Some folks will say that “winning isn’t everything,” and I am fine with that.  But at the same time, unless a team is competitive, it can be very demoralizing and could very easily lead to the quick demise of the sport.  Schools that add sports often phase them in, sometimes scheduling only junior varsity contests for a couple of years in order to develop the program.  One of the best volleyball programs in the nation, St. James Academy from Kansas opened around ten years ago.  They started with a 9^th grade program and moved into a junior varsity schedule the second year.  It was only in year three that they entered varsity competition.  They did that with all of their sports, including baseball where they have already won multiple state titles. 

Related to being competitive, in my opinion it is imperative to have a strong feeder program.  In this day and age, you cannot have a “high school only” team.  You have to have a strong youth program.  If NFV were to add soccer, there has to be a strong youth program in place and students ready to play at the high school level who have played for five or six years.  That is what is in place in other sports, and in order to be competitive as mentioned above, it is imperative.  At the present time, there is a growing youth soccer program in our community and should it expand so that kids can play up through middle school, then there would be a foundation of student-athletes with experience in the sport that can play.

A final consideration, and this may be more personal than others, is that if additional activities were added, there must be a broad base of support.  Different sports require different numbers of participants.  Regardless, it does not make sense to add a sport if there would have to be heavy recruiting to field a team.  More important, to sustain a program going forward, more than “just enough” would have to be interested. 

This conversation will eventually come around and it is important that different aspects of the issue are put on the table.  There is more to it than having a few folks interested in having a new opportunity.  

A Mom's Advice to Prepare Boys to Become Men

A while back I shared an article from Dr. Tim Elmore's blog about what parents should say when their kids perform.  As I have read more from Dr. Elmore, I continue to come across what I consider very good pieces of advice for parents in terms of raising this generation of young people who will in the not too distant future become our leaders.  As I read the article that I have linked for you, I recalled a statement made to me a long time ago from a veteran wrestling coach.  I was a rookie coach taking some lumps with a very inexperienced team.  I don't remember what lead to the comment, but it had to have been something about a particularly tough wrestler and perhaps his dad.  The old coach said, "Show me a tough mom and I'll show you a tough wrestler.  How tough the dad is had nothing to do with our tough the kid is."  In this article, you will see from a very successful mom, some of the keys to how she raised what are some very successful sons.  I hope you enjoy the article!

An Interview: Creative Mothers and Sons

Are You D-I?

In the 28+ years that I have been a teacher, coach, and administrator, I have worked with close to 2050 students.  In that time, I have taught, coached, or been the principal of five students who have received Division I athletic scholarships.  For those of you that do not know, college athletics is basically divided into six “classes” of athletics – Division I, II, II as well as NAIA, and two categories of junior colleges.  Division I is where the big boys play, like Nebraska, Ohio State, USC, Iowa State and yes, even Iowa.  There are a number of differences, but most observers will agree that the best level of competition is at the Division I level, commonly called D-I.  That is also where most of the money and television is, and when we hear about full-ride scholarships, this is the level of competition where those for the most part exist.  So, when you look at the numbers, of the 2050 students that I have worked with, .2% of them have been awarded a Division I athletic scholarship.  Nothing else needs to be presented to show that the odds are not with you if this is the goal that parents have for their child.

Of those D-I athletes that I have worked with, Nick Clausen was a three-year starter at Iowa State for Jim Walden’s football team and was awarded a full-ride scholarship.  Andrew Long had a scholarship to Iowa State and then at Penn State to wrestle.  Madison Frain is currently a scholarship softball player at University of South Dakota, and Colin Bevins had a full-ride football scholarship to play football at Iowa State until he chose to leave the team this past July.  Another student Quin Leith wrestled at Cornell University in New York, but the Ivy League does not award athletic scholarships, though he was awarded various grants and financial aid assistance such that it made it possible for him to attend.  In addition, Teresa Breyfogle turned down track money at Wyoming and Iowa State in order to play basketball and run track at a D-III Buena Vista, and Kalab Evans said “no” to a baseball scholarship at Kentucky and opted to go to a community college to start his baseball career.  So, of all of the students I have worked with, two – Clausen and Bevins – actually received a full-ride scholarship. 

The NCAA, the national governing body of about 1300 institutions of higher learning, determines how many athletic scholarships can be awarded in each sport at each level.  For instance, in D-I men’s basketball, coaches can only award 13 full scholarships, while women’s basketball coaches cannot award any more than 15.  If there were not limits, then the wealthiest schools could outspend the rest, which would certainly upset any balance that may exist on the playing field.  Recognize as well that there are differences between men and women in some sports due to Title IX in an effort to bring about parity in the entire athletic program as they is no women’s equivalent to football and the 85 scholarships that a school can award to those athletes.  And, at the D-I level, in men’s sports the scholarships award to football and basketball players must be “full rides,” meaning that they cannot be divided among athletes.  In other sports they have to be divided as not enough full rides can be given to even fill a team.  For instance, baseball teams get 11.7 scholarships that have to be divided among 30-35 players on the active roster.  It is highly unusual for a baseball player to receive a full scholarship.  D-I wrestling teams can award 9.9 full scholarships, which is interesting because the team has ten weight classes to fill, not to mention having other wrestlers on the team to provide depth.  So, when someone tells you their son got a “full ride” be very skeptical.

The reality is that a very, very small percentage of high school student-athletes are going to win an athletic scholarship, partial or full ride.  The percentage is right at 2% and those given by Division I schools are less than 1%.  Over one million boys play high school football, but less that 30,000 received any kind of scholarship to play that sport at the D-I or D-II level.  The odds are a little better for girls, but not much, though in some sports the odds are a lot better.  What sport has the great opportunity?  Women’s rowing!  However, last I looked, there are not many rowing teams in Iowa high schools!

I am all for dreams and aspirations.  I do think that many parents are a little out of hand hiring private strength and conditioning coaches as well as private technique coaches and spending money on academic test taking coaches, travel and select teams, and maybe even sending their kids off to some of these new full-time academies that are popping up in our country.  The amount of money they will spend will never be recouped unless their child becomes a very successful professional athletic.  But that is not to say that athletic success at high school won’t open some doors.  It does.  But let’s look at it through clear rather than rose colored glasses.

If you want to learn more about college athletic scholarships, I refer you to CBS’s Money Watch and this web site: http://www.cbsnews.com/8301-505145_162-57516273/8-things-you-should-know-about-sports-scholarships/

Are We Over the Top With Rewards?

Being an old wrestler and coach, and a veteran of those long Saturday tournaments for about 40 years, I have been troubled by a number of things that have happened at the youth level to a sport that I love.  Nothing is more troubling than the “buy-a-medal” policy they have in place at so many of these local tournaments held throughout the winter.  Most small town tournaments run a four man round robin tournament and award four medals, where basically, you pay your entry fee and your youngster walks away with a medal.  Even if they do not win a wrestling match all day, they get a medal.  Youth softball and soccer teams regularly give a medal, and some even a trophy, to all kids who play on a team.  So how come we reward participation (some would say mediocrity or losing) rather than awarding success?  Social commentators and researchers will say it is because of a huge shift in our society where we have become more sensitive to feelings and self-esteem.  But is that a good thing?  Have we cheapened hard work and commitment to excellence?  Are we settling for less than the best?  At their most impressionable age, are we teaching children the right values?

Further evidence is the fact that at some schools over 50% of the junior and senior class are in National Honor Society.  How can that be?  Are the standards too low?  Is grade inflation that far out of whack?  How is it an honor to be in a group that 50% of the students qualify for?  Look at those pageants for little girls.  Nearly all of them walk away with a crown and a trophy?  Heck, county and state fairs quit giving white ribbons at 4-H and FFA shows 20 years ago.  Now people get bent out of shape when they get a red ribbon!  What is the message here?

In an article that I read recently it was stated that Americans believe that most of us are average.  In essence they buy in to the bell curve where the majority of folks are in the middle with smaller percentages of folks on the high and low end.  The funny thing is that when asked where they see themselves, most identify themselves as being above average.  This is an over-generalization of the research, but is allows me to pose the question, if each of us believer we are above average, who are the folks below average?  And, because we believe we are above average, we are entitled to those things that come to those who are above average.  Thus, we believe that we are entitled to the rewards or awards, and to appease this attitude, want, or need, we have added more awards.  Rather than wiping away tears at that wrestling meet, parents see a little smile on the face of their little wrestler, even if he did lose all of the matches he wrestled.  The most elite athletes in the world compete for three medals, and yet at high school meets we award five, six, even eight at some state meets.  Is this excellence?

Here’s the problem.  We have developed a generation of young people with a false sense of their abilities and success.  And, when kids have to stand on their own, or when the competition gets a little tougher, many lack the work ethic, skill, and internal fortitude to be successful.  And, as they get older and the medals and trophies quit coming, they come up with reasons not to continue.  Maybe they recognize that they aren’t as good as they thought they were, but they never put it that way.  Rather, the term “burnout” is used.  Or, the coach has it in for them, or it just isn’t fun anymore.  However, the bottom line is that when they were little they were showered with rewards for just showing up.  In life, you have to do more than show up – you have to produce.  It wouldn’t be a bad idea to be honest with people and take a few steps back.  Though it may be hard, we need to be able to tell our kids that their effort isn’t good enough and that they need to put forth more effort.  It may be possible that the message we send is that they aren’t there yet and that they need to be patient and persistent.  Maybe that white ribbon is deserved and should send a message that they need to work a little harder or understand that perseverance is a positive character trait.  Life lessons when kids are young often have strong benefits when they are older.

What Parents Should Say as Their Kids Perform

I was made aware of a blog a while back after having conversation with a number of administrators and came across a recent article that is kind of in the same theme of some that I have written lately.  One of the things that I really believe is lacking in our student body is strong leadership.  We have discussed this for a few years and have come to the point where we have talked enough and we need to do something.  While subscribing to a blog isn't a real impressive step and most likely is in itself not going to make a difference in student leadership, we need resources, and the article I am sharing with you today is one such resource.  Dr. Tim Elmore is the author of the blog and is a "leading authority on how to understand the next generation and prepare tomorrow's leaders today."  A best-selling author, he is also an international speaker and president of Growing Leaders, a nonprofit organization that helps "develop emerging leaders under the philosophy that each child is born with leadership qualities."  This blog article is one that I have pulled that I think paints a pretty good picture for parents and their role with their child.  It is relative to sports, but the message is the same for all aspects of school and a child's life.  

What Parents Should Say as Their Kids Perform

GRIT!

Grit is a term that I don’t hear as much as I used to, unless I am looking for sandpaper.  My grandfather, and for that matter my mother, used that term a lot when I was younger to describe toughness when they were talking about people.  John Wayne, maybe the toughest cowboy of them all, exhibited that trait playing Rooster Cogburn in the movie True Grit way back when. 

A University of Pennsylvania professor has done research the past few years focused on what role effort plays in a person’s success.  Angela Duckworth was a middle and high school teacher before she became a psychology professor.  She spent a lot of time thinking about a concept that most of us believe is common sense: students who tried the hardest did the best, and those that didn’t try very hard didn’t do very well.  Sure, that makes a lot of sense.  But, what about talent and aptitude?  What about intelligence?  Don’t those smarter kids have an advantage?  Can’t they be successful without putting forth a strong effort?  We also know that as far as school success is concerned, poverty and thus a child’s background play a role in success.  But Duckworth says that regardless, those are secondary to the effort that one puts forth.

In his book Outliers, Malcolm Gladwell argues that there are a number of factors that determine success, from the month in which one is born to living in the right place at the right time.  But, Gladwell also claims that the key to success in any field is the 10,000-hour rule, which means that it is a matter of practicing a specific task for a total of around 10,000 hours.  That is an incredible amount of time!  That takes grit!

Duckworth goes on to write that the person with grit recognizes that achievement is a marathon, not a sprint.  The student that has grit has stamina and sticks with a task until they get it right.  She even suggests that when it comes to high levels of achievement, grit may be as essential as intelligence, which debunks the commonly held belief that one’s IQ is the key to success.  While intelligence is easily measured, grit is tougher to get a handle on, but according to Duckworth, those who stick with a task, who work hard, and who show determination do succeed.  In fact, in a study she conducted at an Ivy League school, the “grittiest” students had higher GPA’s than the smartest ones. 

High school students of this generation have a strong desire for instant gratification.  They are the gamers that thrive on instantaneous rewards and moving up levels.  They tweet and post constantly with immediate feedback from friends, which is a lot different than letter writing!  Educators talk a lot about kids simply wanting an answer without understanding the process or reworking a problem until they understand it.  And, many parents with good intentions swoop in to problem-solve rather than watch their child struggle and sometimes fail.  Persistence.  Tenacity.  Perseverance.  Diligence.  Grit!  It is probably the single most important quality that we as parents can work to instill in our children if we want to see them succeed and achieve.

Is This Who We Are?

I collect a lot of bits and pieces of information.  Years ago I kept a box of clippings from newspapers and magazines, as well as copies of something I might have read, or scribbles of something I heard and wrote down.  Today with the Internet, I cut and paste snippets from articles I have come across, or download things that I want to remember or return to at some point.  As I was sorting through some of my “treasures” I came across a statement that I cut and pasted during the time of the New Orleans Saints “bounty-gate scandal” when coaches and players conspired to deliberately injure opposing players for cash during NFL football games.  The quote comes from an article written by my favorite sports columnist, Jason Whitlock from Fox Sports.  Here it is:

“Payton, Williams, Jonathan Vilma and all the Saints reflect what is true about modern American society. We’re cold, ruthless and unashamed in pursuit of the things we want. We no longer pretend fair play is important or valued. We condone torture. We’ve lost the courage to compromise, surrendering our national discourse to left and right extremists.”

Boy! That is a pretty strong indictment of the society we live in, and when I look at politics, it does ring very true.  Politicians have lost all sense of decorum, including our Supreme Court justices who make very derogatory public comments after rulings, which is something that has not happened in our nation’s history until recently.  Name-calling is basically accepted on the floor of our congress, and in the media it happens on a daily basis.  It seems that in every political race of importance, rules are bent and candidates will say whatever they need to in order to garner a few more votes.  In speeches things are said that have no factual basis without apology or remorse.

It goes beyond politics.  How many times in recent years has the media published something that is wrong in order to win the race to be the first?  For most of our history there was a great deal of pride in the integrity of journalism, but now the competition for being first with a story has erased all sense of integrity.  Major college athletic programs are rift with cheating and scandal all in the name of victories, which leads to money and television appearances.  What more needs to be said about banks and Wall Street? 

Unfortunately this mentality has invaded our homes as well.  Parents cover up for their children’s missteps, some of them following the philosophy of “it isn’t illegal/wrong if you don’t get caught.”  Some choose to move their children around from one district to another in order to get them on a better team or with a better coach.  I have had one coaching friend told by a parent that he was not to “mess with his son’s pitching mechanics because he pays for professional pitching instruction.”  Other parents take a great deal of pride of being someone who “says what’s on their mind” regardless of whether it is appropriate and regardless of who may hear it or who it may hurt.  Kind of like Nike’s Just Do It mantra, we now live in a society that also seems to advocate Just Say It!

I believe that we are better than this.  But I also recognize that there is a huge hill to climb.  In this country, and in our community, there are many people with strong moral character, who do things the right way.  They have not been tainted by the “win at all costs” mentality, or by Just Do It.  We need those people to step forward and lead.  If they aren’t willing to do that on their own, then we need to encourage them to do so.  By the same token, in our schools we need to do a better job of including character development in everything that we do.  Winning with honor is a much better motto to live by than winning at all costs.  Being respectful and courteous will take us a lot further in life.  Just Do The Right Thing!